Q: Please tell us about Clarity International’s coaching method.
People in our culture are taught to do everything until they get exhausted and burn out. Many of their activities drain them because they do what others want, rather than what brings them joy. Our lights on coaching approach is counter-cultural. We encourage people to do what they love, what lights them up, and to let go of anything draining.
In our book, Creating the Rest of Your Life, we guide people through Clarity’s Lights on Learning Method© to help them feel the difference between what gives them energy (lights on) and what depletes them (lights off). This discernment helps them take right action.
When I coach people, I actually videotape them before and after our chakra-based interview so they can see this difference and use it as a guide. For example, before pictures often show right-left brain imbalances (appear as left-right face discrepancies), restricted expression (squinted eyes or tight throats), and energy depletion (pale skin or dullness in energy field), all of which improve after the interview.
When a person has a lights on thought, his or her body releases feel good hormones—endorphins like serotonin—which are energizing. This beneficial response causes the person to reflect radiance to the world. He or she looks, feels, and acts differently, causing him or her to attract what he or she wants in life. Conversely, when an individual has a lights off thought, stress-related hormones like cortisol are released, robbing him or her of energy. The person then reflects and acts in a way that attracts what he or she does not want. So, the choice is simple: Are your lights on or off? If what you want to do ranks 7.5 or higher on a 1 to 10 scale, go for it! Your lights are on. If it ranks lower, then change direction. You have to know what lights you up before you can jump into the river of how it will manifest.
Q: How did living “lights on” change you?
Keeping my lights on is an inside job. So I continually monitor my body to discern whether my lights are on or off. If they are off, I shift my focus to what lights me up. For example, I’ll go for a walk, look at a painting, or listen to music. Living lights on creates a vibrational ripple effect that benefits us all.
Q: What advice would you give someone just starting to live “lights on?”
Give yourself permission to lead a fully vibrant life in which you receive all you desire. That means you must stop doing anything that doesn’t rate a 7.5 or higher (out of 10) on your personal satisfaction scale. When you follow your calling, you will attract more of what you want in life. Knowing what you want allows the universe to take over the how. This is the Law of Attraction at its finest.
Q: What would you like to be written on your tombstone?
Cathy: “She Died Alive.” This means I lived every moment infusing others and myself with energy. My light would not disappear; it would just take a different form.
Gary: “Starting Over.” I jokingly said this to my son because he has seen me start over in different careers and marriages his entire life. When I die, I’m starting over spiritually and hope Cathy can catch up!